“Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness.”
– Desmond Tutu
Hope is the belief that things will be better than they are right now. This could be a belief that you will be less depressed, free from porn or that your relationship will improve. Hope is vital to making any real progress in therapy. As a therapist, I hold hope for people who cannot do it for themselves. The lack of hope is soul crushing and it can steal your joy or drive you to end it all. I encourage clients to begin each session by answering the question "what's better this week?" It is so easy to focus on the problem, after all, the problem is why people come to therapy. Things get better a little at a time and sometimes it takes work to really notice a change. Statistically, clients make some of their best progress in treatment before they ever meet the therapist. This is because they have newfound hope that things will be better tomorrow than they are today. So where ever you are in your journey, look to the progress you have already made and try to build on it and when you find yourself with no hope then look to a friend, a family member or a therapist to hold that hope for you until you can see it for yourself.